When someone we love is abusing or has become dependent on substances, it can be frightening, hurtful, lonely, and angering. This can result in feelings of hopelessness, powerlessness, shame, and blame, which in turn may lead to increased conflict and cutoff in the relationship with the using loved one. I seek to support the loved one impacted by another’s use through the approach of Community Reinforcement and Family Training (CRAFT). This empowers loved ones to effect positive relationship changes that can influence the substance user to seek treatment. This creates a shift to reducing conflict and improving the relationship with the substance user. In this way, healthy changes are not dependent on the substance user and you can attend sessions on your own, or with anyone else in your family who is ready for change. The substance user does not need to be ready to seek treatment in order for you to start getting help.